A special guest post by our friend Bobby Box (@bybobbybox)
The prostate was once a relatively unexplored pleasure zone for men and people with penises. A big reason for this is homophobia, as there is a very inaccurate yet widespread belief that butt play makes you gay.
At one point in our not-so-distant history, sodomy laws were inextricably re-written and used against queer people in a number of ways, ultimately stripping them of their rights. If you can believe it, sodomy is still illegal in 12 states.
This discrimination has stunted research in the field of butt play as well. Despite the fact that the prostate was first formally identified in 1536, it isn’t until 2014 that we see prostate-induced orgasms studied in academic and clinical research. The only research prior spoke to the prostate’s function during a penile orgasm and as a means to prevent prostate cancer.
However, things are beginning to change. Research from intimate care brand Future Method found that 32 percent of men have been on the receiving end of anal sex and 10 percent of straight-identified men have tried pegging. What’s more, an analysis of over 1,000,000 sex toy sales found that butt plugs account for 40 percent of men’s sex toy purchases. This research also found that single men purchase more dildos than any other demographic.
Evidently, men and people with penises are beginning to shed the stigma and open their minds and holes to the splendours of anal play. If you’re curious to try for yourself, read the information below and prepare your booty for some intensely satisfying sensations. Here's how to have a prostate orgasm!
What is the prostate?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland, its primary role in the body is to provide prostatic fluid, a liquid that both nourishes and protects the sperm in semen by neutralizing the acidity in our bodies during ejaculation. The prostate contributes roughly 20 to 30 percent of the total semen volume, the remainder mostly comes from the seminal vesicles. But that’s not all, the prostate also plays a supporting role in hormone production and helps regulate urine flow.
The prostate also happens to be an incredibly powerful sexual organ surrounded by nerve-endings that provide pleasures so powerful it’s often referenced as the “P-Spot” as its orgasms are comparable to those derived from the G-Spot in women and people with vulvas.
As for its location, the prostate is nestled between the bladder and penis, roughly two to four inches inside the rectum. It has a distinct, muscular texture with the density of a plum, and can be accessed one of two ways: internally through the rectum, and externally through the perineum, the swath of skin spanning between the scrotum and anus.
What are the benefits of prostate stimulation?
While research on prostate stimulation is still limited, it has been found to have a number of benefits. It’s important to note that most of the studies conducted have been small and more research is required to better understand and substantiate these benefits.
Because prostate stimulation encourages blood flow to the genitals, people have reported stiffer and thicker erections. Because seminal fluid contains the proper alkalinity to neutralize the body’s acidity, it protects sperm during its travels out of the body and into another, which is great if you’re trying to conceive.
Regularly massaging (or “milking”) the prostate might alleviate long-term erectile dysfunction as well, as doing so encourages blood flow, calms localized irritation and cleans toxins by flushing the gland.
How do you have a prostate orgasm?
There are a few ways you can approach a prostate orgasm. Since prostate stimulation can be intense, you may want to start by stimulating externally. You can do this by laying on your back, lifting your legs toward your chest, and feeling along your perineum (or taint). Feel roughly halfway along this swath of skin, feeling for something bulbous. When you find the prostate (many describe the sensation as the beginning of an orgasm), apply pressure to the area.
Explore different prostate orgasm techniques. Start with slow, circular motions, then tap on it using the pressure you would when ringing a doorbell. You can use sex toys as well. Try picking one that’s firm, vibrates and/or has a big bulb on the end, like the Njoy Pure Wand or a classic wand-style vibrator.
When it comes to internal stimulation, you’re going through the rectum, so first make sure that you trim and file your fingernails, apply plenty of lube, and most important of all, be patient with yourself. Assume the same position you would when stimulating externally, and enter with your finger facing upward toward the belly button.
If there is any resistance when entering the anus (likely the sphincter muscles) don’t force your way through. Instead, keep your finger in place until your body naturally opens up. While everybody responds differently to stimulation, the “come hither” motion is most often recommended when exploring the prostate. To do so, insert a finger roughly two inches inside your anus so it can curl toward the belly.
When you think you’re there, slowly feel around for a plumb-like structure. If you’re having trouble locating the prostate, start playing with your genitals since the prostate fills with fluid and becomes larger and easier to locate when aroused. Once you’ve found it, brush the prostate with the pads of your finger as if you’re seductively beckoning it to come closer. Next, try lightly tapping the gland or tracing circles around it. Experiment and do whatever feels good since everybody has a preference. There are sex toys specifically designed for stimulating the prostate if you’re curious, like the LOKI Wave or Billy 2.
As is true with most massages, our nerves get bored when the same technique is used over and over again, so make sure you switch things up every now and then. The only exception to this rule is when you or your partner is close to climax. When that happens, stay the course until you orgasm.
What does a prostate orgasm feel like?
As mentioned earlier, anecdotal research has found a prostate orgasm is as much as 33 percent stronger than your standard penile orgasm. Research published in the journal Clinical Anatomy says “there can be little doubt that stimulating the prostate via the rectal wall can create ecstatic feelings that are exceptionally pleasurable, often surpassing those obtained from penile stimulation.”
People who’ve experienced a prostate orgasm often describe it as full body (meaning it’s not localized to the genital area) and offers a deeper sense of release. Those who have them may experience involuntary muscular contraction and shaking.
In a previous interview on the subject, Benjie, a 32-year-old gay men from Toronto. “The feelings in my hole get stronger and stronger, and they kind of reach a peak of intensity and it all kind of comes crashing home. My muscles tense, I spasm a bit, and usually swear. A penis orgasm with ejaculation feels like a period. It’s an ending. My first prostate orgasm of the night is usually just a start.”
Prostate orgasms can also occur without ejaculation (these are also known as “dry orgasms”) and often have shorter grace periods than genital orgasms. This means they can happen more frequently, sometimes one after another.
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