Get Ahead on Giving Head: Oral Sex Tips

You guys, with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, we thought it would be a great time to discuss the most giving gift you can give–Oral Sex! When done right, oral can be the most loving, sexy, and intimate way to show each other just how much you care — giving your partner time solely dedicated to their pleasure.

Take your time, talk about it, start slowly, and work your way down. You don’t have to tease, but anticipation is something that can build so that when your lips or tongue makes contact, it feels like the beginning of something very special. When the other person is truly ready to receive pleasure, then it’s a more relaxed, confident, and seductive experience for everyone. Also, find a comfortable position, and feel free to adjust if you’re not. Not rushing takes being comfortable, and rushing is the enemy here.

Before diving in, try an over-the-pants tease—lips, tongue, fingers tracing over fabric, sending jolts of pleasure through layers of clothing. There’s something uniquely seductive about feeling the outline, tracing the edge, pressing into her line, or gripping him tight. That way, when it is finally unwrapped, it’s like freedom and electricity going through their body.

The key to unforgettable oral sex isn’t just technique—it’s presence. Be there, fully. Enjoy it and think about making love to it. Kiss it, lick it, not just on it but to the sides and everywhere around it, make out with it, savor it, and appreciate it. Whether you’re giving a blowjob or indulging in cunnilingus, treat your partner like the masterpiece they are.

Cunnilingus is an art of patience, rhythm, and reverence. Here’s how to make their body sing:

• Start Slow, Stay Curious: Kiss your way down, letting the anticipation build. The first touch of your tongue should be light, teasing, and promising. Explore with your lips and tongue.

• The Clit is Queen: Once you find her most sensitive spot, don’t rush the pressure—circle, flick, and trace patterns with your tongue. Let her responses guide you. Tease it, leave it, and come back, and then stay with a rhythm for a bit before exploring again.

• Use Your Whole Mouth: Lips, tongue, even the warmth of your breath—vary the sensations to keep her on the edge. A tight, pointed tongue for details, and a flat, warm tongue like licking an ice cream cone.

• Use Your Hands: Internal stimulation paired with external attention? A winning combination. Use a “come-hither” motion on her G-spot while your tongue focuses on her clit. Also, let’s not ignore how a soft hand on her chest or holding a hand can increase the feeling of safety and love during it.

• Read Their Reactions: The best lovers don’t just perform; they listen. Pay attention to how their body responds and when you find what makes them unravel? Don’t stop.

While every man has his thing, here are some sure-fire tips to care for more than his tip.

• Take. Your. Time: Don’t rush. Start slow, teasing licks and light touches, working your way up to deeper sensations. And might we add: EYE-CONTACT.

• The Power of Hand: Don’t just rely on your mouth—stroke in sync, build a rhythm, and let your hands amplify the experience.

• The Secret Sensitive Spots: The frenulum (the ridge beneath the head), the perineum (that deliciously sensitive zone between the balls and the back)—explore these places with soft licks and firm pressure.

• Deepen the Connection: If you’re exploring deep-throating, relax your throat, breathe through your nose, and take your time. And if that’s not your thing? No worries. Enthusiasm beats acrobatics every time.

Oral sex isn’t a sprint—it’s a slow-paced climb. When your partner is close, resist the urge to speed up. In fact, if you sense the O, don’t change a THING you’re doing. Hold them there, teasing, keeping them on the edge for just a little longer. That final moment will be all the more intense.

And once they’ve shattered beneath your touch? Don’t just roll over. Kiss them. Hold them. Let them feel that this wasn’t just an act—it was a gift. Connection is the best after-O move.

The best lovers aren’t just technically skilled; they’re the ones who enjoy giving as much as receiving. They savor the experience, get lost in it, and make it feel like the most intimate act in the world.

So this Valentine’s Day, forget the clichés. Give the kind of pleasure that lingers in the mind, that gets replayed in daydreams, that leaves your partner aching for more.