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Risqué Resolutions 2025: How to Have Your Best Sex This Year

Written by: Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

How to Have Your Best Sex This Year

Do you know that 23% of adults abandon their New Year’s resolutions by the second Friday of January? Yup. It’s actually known as Quitter’s Day. Well, here at Popstar, we are not quitters (or spitters, for that matter). Popstar is back with risqué resolutions that you will definitely want to keep well beyond the second Friday of the year and for years to come. Here are the tips for having your best sex yet in 2025!

Keep it Spicy

Whether you have a long-term partner or you’re looking to strengthen your longest-running relationship (the one with yourself), keeping things sexually interesting is key. If you have fallen into a routine of 20 minutes of missionary or five minutes of masturbation, followed by TikTok doom scrolling before passing out, this article is for you.

Try Something New

At the top of the year, we usually make a bucket list to go alongside our resolutions. Bucket lists tend to include traveling to a new destination or, if you’re feeling really adventurous, skydiving. Things of sexual nature don’t usually make the cut. But why? Setting intentions for your sex life is as important as setting them for your regular one. A boot-knocking bucket list is another way to ensure that you have the best sex of your life in 2025. Let’s try something new this year, shall we? Below are some reasonable and attainable bucket list items to check off. While they may not be as adventurous as skydiving, they’re definitely safer.

Watch Porn With Someone

First on the bucket list: watching porn! Easy, right? Going to go out on a limb here and say that most of us have done it. Some of us may even remember that awkward conversation about how viruses and pop-ups “magically appeared” on the family computer.


Point is: we have all watched, but have we watched porn with someone? 😏 Most people think of watching porn as the solitaire of sex: something that is meant to be done alone. But could it be a team sport? Watching porn with your partner (long-term or just for the night) can be beneficial for your sex life. Watching together can be used as foreplay to set the mood, help you realize and convey your fantasies, and keep communication open. For the entire scoop on watching porn with your partner and how to introduce the topic, check out our blog post here.

Sexting

Sexting: the action or practice of sending sexually explicit photographs or messages via mobile phone. We are familiar, yes? I mean, it has been in the Oxford English Dictionary since 2011 (I guess Mirriam-Webster is a little more prudish). Much like watching porn, most of us have probably partaken in some form of sexting. Sexting, or even bringing back good old-fashioned phone sex, could be the answer to giving your sex life the twist it needs for 2025. The splash of cran in your vodka soda if you will. Sexting can help to leave a few things up to the imagination and allow you and your partner to get creative. Successful sexting uses multiple mediums of communication, i.e., written messages, photos, videos, and the often forgotten but very alluring voice memo.


Now for some sexting best practices. Besides the obvious consent, you want to make sure both parties are in the right setting. The last thing you want to do is receive an NSFW (not safe for work) pic the one time your boss happens to walk past your cubicle. This is a topic you definitely don’t want to cover in your yearly performance evaluation. Save the sexting for when you know you have guaranteed privacy.


Using the right platform is also key. Snapchat is a no. That is unless you are a recovering frat bro under the age of 25. Instagram DMs, however, are a different story. The vanish mode feature can keep your explicit photos and scandalous sweet-nothings between the sexter and the sextee. Once you swipe out of vanish mode, poof! Your messages are gone, only to be accessed by the FBI agent assigned to monitor your phone (don we now our tinfoil hats). Hope you gave them some good reading. 😉


Sexting is also convenient. The regulars in your Rolodex (hopefully, we all remember what a Rolodex is) may not always be available. After all, they aren’t on-call doctors. They may not be ready and waiting for you when you get home from a night out, but chances are, they are always a text away. You can still get your rocks off without springing for their Uber to and from. No muss, no fuss.


The convenience of sexting is great for the guy on the go. If you are having your best year yet, it will include a ton of travel for both business and pleasure. While solo travel is adventurous, it may mean that you are away from your partner or your usual suspects. This is where sexting really comes in clutch. It can keep things interesting when your long-term becomes long-distance.

Pegging

Speaking of adventurous…


My Marvel fans (specifically Deadpool) are already familiar, but for our DC universe fans in the chat, pegging is when a woman penetrates a man anally using a strap-on dildo. We can feel your mouse moving to the “X” button. Before you close out of this window, hear us out. If you haven’t tried pegging or dabbled in the world of back-door play, then chances are you haven’t had the best orgasm of your life. As it would turn out, a man’s G-Spot can be reached via anal stimulation through a small, walnut-sized gland called the prostate. The  P-Spot , if you will. Even if you don’t hit your  prostate , your body has more nerve endings down there than you think, so it is worth the test drive. 


With open communication, a lot, and we do mean a lot of lube, pegging has the potential to give you the best orgasm of your life. I don’t know about you guys, but having your best orgasm sounds like an incredible year in the making to me. For the ins and outs of pegging, click here.

Guest Star

The best part about any TV series is the guest stars. There is nothing better than watching your favorite show and seeing someone from another favorite series of yours popping in for a cameo. We may be used to guest stars on our televisions, but what about in our bedrooms? If you are in a long-term relationship or got a head start on your cuffing season situationship, bringing in a third could be the ticket to having your best sex in 2025. It’s like having a celeb shot in a game of beer pong. Now, we aren’t suggesting you go full Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and join a swingers community (unless that is your thing), but it could turn your sex life on its ear.


Casting your guest can seem daunting, but the great news is you no longer have to take out an ad in the local paper. Apps like Feeld are dedicated to sexually open-minded people looking to explore their intimate fantasies. If you are looking for a guest star with overlapping sexual interests, Feeld is a great starting point.


Keep in mind, like most sexual ventures beyond the norm, that require very open communication and consent. Make sure everyone involved in the trio is just as excited as you are.

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Increase Your Load Size

Whether it’s a rock concert encore or a firework show, we all want a big finish. No one goes to an Aerosmith concert and hopes they end with an acoustic version of “Walk This Way” on the ukelele. We want the amps to blow out to “Dream On.” The same applies to the bedroom. A big finish, i.e., a larger load, is believed to be directly linked to better orgasms for both you and your partner.


Increasing semen volume has both physical and psychological impacts on your sex life. A large load is not only visual confirmation of you and your partner’s arousal, but higher semen volume prolongs your orgasm. The more semen is expelled, the more contractions there are during orgasm, therefore prolonging it. I will go out on a limb here and say that no one is going to turn down having a longer orgasm. So, if having the best sex of your life is your 2025 resolution, we are aiming for a firehose level of volume. Shoot for the fences in 2025 and hit the headboards. For the most efficient way to naturally increase your semen volume, Popstar Volume + Taste is the answer.

Location

If kinks and a bigger cleanup aren’t really your thing, a simple relocation could be the resolution for you. Anyone can have sex in their bedroom, but we have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, and we aren’t wearing it. Now, this isn’t your hall pass to have sex in the gazebo on the town square, but the kitchen island could be fun. Hell, even getting from the bed to the shower or hot tub will spice up a somewhat mundane sex routine. You can even make it into a game. Put all the rooms in your home that are conducive for having sex (the shed could cause some issues), write them down on little slips of paper, put them in a jar, and randomly draw which room is next. Whatever it takes to get you out of the bed and on all fours in the den, amiright!? 

Train Your Penis

Training? Doesn’t fitness fall under the cliché New Year’s resolutions category? Not this kind. It seems that everyone is running to the gym as soon as the ball drops to train their arms, abs, ass, you name it. But how many men are training their penis? Well, not your penis per se, but your pelvic floor. We promise it’s all related.  A strong pelvic floor is key to having stronger erections and even shooting farther. 


The best way to train your pelvic floor is with Kegels. Kegels are exercises that involve repetitions of both sustained and rapid contractions of the pelvic floor muscles. Think of the muscles that are used to stop the flow of urine when you are going to the bathroom. You simply tighten the muscles for five seconds and let go. We recommend repeating the process for about ten minutes for a full kegel routine and doing your kegel routine once or twice a day. Now, before you sigh or roll your eyes, Kegels won’t keep you at the gym any longer. The best thing about Kegels, other than the results, is that they can be done anywhere. On the couch during the Dallas Cowboys game, during your fourth viewing of the Wicked movie, while you mow the lawn, pump gas, wherever. 


If you want to skip leg day, we understand, but make sure every day is Kegel day. Men who incorporate Kegels into their everyday routine see an improvement in their overall sexual health and have reported greater control of ejaculation as well as a bigger orgasm. To learn about other exercises that are great for strengthening your pelvic floor, click here

Conclusion

And there you have it—your 2025 playbook for bedroom (and maybe den, kitchen, and hot tub) success! Remember, the key to any resolution is commitment, communication, and a willingness to get out of your comfort zone (or, in some cases, into it). Whether you're building your bucket list, hitting those Kegels during halftime, kissing through the phon, or in person, this year is about doing it all—pun absolutely intended.


So, here’s to a year of big finishes, unforgettable guest appearances, and discovering new frontiers in pleasure. Quitter’s Day? Never heard of her. 2025 is yours to conquer—one spicy resolution at a time.


After all, 2025 is the year of the snake. Wishing you a happy, healthy, and sex-positive new year! 

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez is a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine and specializes in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. He completed his medical education at Columbia University and his urological residency at the Mount Sinai Medical Center. Throughout his career, Dr. Gonzalez has focused on advocating for sexual health and providing improved healthcare to the LGBTQ+ community.

Dr. Brian Steixner

Dr. Brian Steixner

Dr. Brian Steixner is a board-certified urologist and an expert in men’s sexual medicine. He completed his General Surgery and Urology training at The University of Pennsylvania and The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, one of the busiest and most comprehensive programs in the nation. During his career, Brian has treated thousands of men with sexual health issues including male factor infertility.